Hello friends. It is my goal to feature other bloggers at My Sound Mind. This week I have an article from one of my best friends, Kelley Raetzsch. You can learn more about Kelley and what she does here http://vlnutrition.com/
I hope you enjoy the article as much as I did.
Okay, so the title is definitely cliche’, but we still battle the daily look in the mirror as we wait for it to tell us about our beauty. Unfortunately, for many women, the mirror is another source of negativity, shame and lies. There are many sources out there telling us we should not be okay with our body, especially if we have bumps, lumps, bulges or other “undesirables”. Friends and family may comment on weight or size, plastic surgery faciltites tell us we could be more beautiful, magazine covers constantly tell us how we must be thin or lose more weight. Just take a look at the cover of this month’s issue of “First for Women”. Thank you Dr. Oz for letting me know that I am ugly with my now bulging belly and jiggly hips and thighs.
So, this magazine and many others tell us what is wrong with us (sagging breasts, cellulite, wrinkles, etc.) then offer the magical secret to cure us! So, if you have any of these, be sure to talk badly about yourself as you look in the mirror. How does that feel? Awful!!! Please stop using the mirror to put yourself down. If you think badly about yourself, you will feel badly, which will likely lead to an unhealthy food/exercise relationship, ultimately stripping you of the full life you deserve and crave!
On a personal note the mirror has typically had its healthy place for me. A quick glance to wash my face, put my hair up and maybe throw on some eye makeup in my adult life. In those moments I find myself getting upset and falling into the trap of discouragement and disgust. Some days I am able to shrug it off and other days I have to work at redirecting my negative thinking, just the way I would coach my clients to respond. I must remind myself that who I am is not what my body looks like. One of my clients shared this video that is a good reminder to any mom.
Let’s stop being so harsh on ourselves and using the mirror as a weapon. If you struggle with any negative self-talk when looking in the mirror, I challenge you to instead be affirming. Check out these two great examples on ways to use your mirror to bring truth to your day! Just imagine how you might feel if you spoke these words instead of defeating words!!
This first mirror is compliments of a past patient who put her creative skills to work, leaving enough mirror space to meet her needs..
While meeting with Kit McFarland of Dragonfly Yoga Studio, I was pleasantly surprised to see how she encouraged her younger clientele to embrace who they are beyond the mirror. Check out the only mirror you will find in her studio!
Originally published on the Love Your Body blog at Fredericksburg Parent