seasons of life

Identity Crisis: True Identity

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It’s been a little while, but today we finish up the identity series. Last time I shared my story and how this is still a journey for me. I shared that I had reached a point of needing something to change and asking “where do I go from here?”

I think many of us reach this point. Where do we go from here? Well, we can continue with more of the same or look to God for answers. I did the latter and after many years have come to realize how important it is to know who God created us to be. As people and as the body of Christ, we really need to know who he designed us to be.

-Knowing your identity in Christ brings freedom.

To get there, one place we need to start is with renewing our minds. Identity is tied to our thoughts. We must change the way we think. Philippians 4:8 tells us to think on good things. We need to start believing and speaking the truth. We need to speak positive over our lives more than the negative. Another thing we need is healing. Healing from wounds and past hurts. Healing from lies we have believed. Healing from any false identity that we have created for ourselves. We can ask the Holy Spirit to show us any lies we have believed and to heal any wounds we may have. One big area I feel we need to grow in as Christians, is to receive and experience God’s love. When we receive God’s love, then we can love ourselves. If we don’t love ourselves we can’t fully love others and we can only minister to others to the level of our own healing. We must look to God for who he created us to be. When we are looking to others and to things arounds us to define us, we are unable to walk in our God designed identity. We suffer and the whole body suffers when we try to be something other than what God has called us to be.

-The true you is always more popular than the fake you.

So here it is…. change isn’t easy. But change is worth it. There is a price to pay, but wherever you are in life, you are already paying some kind of price. Living bound to a false and ungodly identity has a high price in anyone’s life. Knowing who you are in Christ sets you free. Freedom is waiting for everyone. So, how do we begin to find out who we are in Christ?

Let’s start by defining identity.

According to Mr. Webster, identity is who someone is, the quality, beliefs, etc. that make a particular person or group different from others, the distinguishing character or personality of an individual, and my personal favorite, the condition of being ones self and not another.

Now lets look at what God says about our identity.

These four things frame everyone’s identity.

1. You are unique. Psalm 139 tells us that we are made unique, that we are fearfully and wonderfully made. It tells us that no matter where we go The Lord is there. It also says that God’s thoughts about us are precious.

2. The Lord has designed you for a specific time and purpose. Ephesians 2:10 says that we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them. Ephesians 1:3-5 tells us that God chose us in him before the foundations of the world…

3. Nobody can take your place in your world. Each of us has a place to be fitted in the Kingdom. Ephesians 2:19-22 tells us we are members in the household of God and are fitted together to grow into a holy temple.

4. You are uniquely gifted and needed by those God has called you to be with. I Peter 4:10 tells us that we each have a gift and should minister to one another.

Each of us are unique. We all are created with a purpose. Each of us are needed by each other and in God’s Kingdom. We all have gifts and talents. We are all a part of one big puzzle and each of us need fitted into the picture. We need to be confident and steadfast with who he created us to be.

There is no such thing as a perfect identity. We as humans certainly make mistakes, but trying to live our lives in the way God created us will give us a freedom and a peace we will not find anywhere else. If we always try to be someone that others will like, we will end up not having peace in our lives. We will never make everyone happy and everyone is not always going to like us. However, to have peace in our lives, we must listen to God and get comfortable being who he wants us to be. We’re meant to rely on him, to know his love for us, and trust that God has the best plans for us. It’s not what others think of us, but what God thinks of us that really matters. It’s how we see ourselves that defines who we are, not how others see us.

True identity lies in Christ. We may look for it in other places, and even find it there for awhile. We may create an identity for ourselves that may carry us for a time, but in the end if we put our identity in anything else, other than Christ, it is temporary. Build your identity in Gods love for you. Unchangeable. Unconditional. Never failing. Build your identity in who he says your are. I want to leave you with this thought. Ask God to show you who you are. Ask God to see yourself through his eyes. If you need a place to start, here are some things God says you are:

Beautiful
Loved
Cherished
Justified
Set apart
Set free
Gifted
The Apple of his eye
Protected
Adopted and Born of God
Made with a purpose
God’s workmanship
Fearfully and wonderfully made
He knows every hair on your head
A new creation in Christ
Chosen by God
You are never forsaken
He has laid out a path for you and made your path straight
You are forgiven
You are redeemed
You are perfect in His sight
You are made righteous
You are Gods representative
You are warriors
You are sufficient to minister to others
He will give you the mind of Christ
He heals the broken hearted
You are the sons and daughters of Christ
He has made you righteous
You are more than conquerors
You are an overcomer.
You are ruled by peace and not fear
You are quickened by His word
You are complete in Him
You are a Kings kid
You are bought with a price.
He died for you and bought you with His blood.
He loves you
He will never forsake you

Be blessed my friends.

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Be You Bravely

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I saw this video a few days ago from a friend on Facebook. It impacted me greatly. My wish, no my prayer is that each of us would take this message to heart. That we would embrace who we are. That we would be comfortable in our own skin. That we could be comfortable being who He created us to be.  So my friends, I pray for you today, to take a step with me and together to Be You Bravely.

Thankfulness

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This Thanksgiving weekend was one of the best that I remember in a long time. My parents came for dinner, my oldest son was home for a visit, we decorated for Christmas, we even played board games. It was a wonderful weekend. I came out of the weekend with the thought that you can’t put a price on the important things in life.

On the way to church on Sunday, I was feeling very thankful for all that this year has brought me and for all that God has done for my family and I. I was pondering how to keep the whole holiday season in perspective. I want to remember that it is a time to be thankful and a time that’s more about giving than receiving. Then, I began to think that’s how we should live our lives everyday.

Then in church, My Pastor put into words the answer to my question. The question of how to keep life in perspective. The answer is to be thankful in all things, at all times. He had a comparison chart that I loved. A simple negative versus positive comparison of how being unthankful versus thankful, affects our lives. It really impacted me, and I realize I need to be more thankful every day of my life. Below is the comparison.

Negative Affects of Unthankfulness 

Self Centeredness
Critical Spirit
Bitterness
Worry
Unbelief

Positive Affects of Thankfulness

Other Focused
Blessing Spirit
Joy
Contentment
Faith

As we delve deeper into the holiday season I want to keep thankfulness on my mind and in my heart. I want to remember that Christmas isn’t about all the gifts we give and receive, but about the gift that Christ gave to us all on the cross. I want to remember that family is one of the most important things a person can have. I want to give more of myself to God and more to those that I love. But most of all I want to have a happy, thankful heart, not just during this season, but every day of the year, because the price Jesus paid is too high for me to live any other way. Be blessed my friends, be full of joy, and know that you are loved.

Cherishing The Moments

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In the last month I have had the wonderful privilege of spending a week at the beach with my hubby, my kids and parents. I’ve got to spend time with wonderful friends and I launched my oldest son off into the world. It has been quite an eventful month.

It has made me think of how life is full of beautiful moments and how quickly they pass. Having sent my oldest off, made me think of the moments of being a brand new mom. It doesn’t seem that long ago that it was my first day home alone with him. I was worried how I would do. Then it rained and the electricity went out. He fell asleep on my chest. I cried, overwhelmed by feelings of love, awe, and fears of doing a terrible job as a mom. In that moment, it was like the world just stopped awhile for him and I to bond on a rainy day with nothing else to do.

Looking back, I sometimes wish that I would have held on to many moments a little longer. One more story, one more hug, one more twirl around the living room. I feel blessed that I have God in my life and that I handed my children to him while still in the womb. It has helped me through sleepless nights and sticky fingers. Through long days, and diaper changes. It helped me say I’m sorry and I don’t have all the answers. In recent years it has given me the privilege of hanging out in those crazy moments with teenagers, even though they are hard. It has helped me let go, the hardest thing a mom will ever do. Most of all, it has given me peace that The Lord cares even more about my children than I do, so I know they are in good hands.

Recently I was talking to a mom with small kids. We talked about how hard the toddler years can be, especially when you have several children. But in that moment, all I could remember was joyous laughter, make believe, and sunny days. As most moms say, I told her to enjoy the moments. Cherish them. They pass too quickly. I told her she won’t remember the sleepless nights, the never ending diaper changes, and messy house. What she will remember are all those beautiful moments. And in that moment, I was so thankful for all the beautiful moments in my life. Thankful and excite for many more beautiful moments to cherish in the future.

Sometimes seasons of life can be hard. Letting go and entering a new season can be tough, especially as a mom. But I would encourage you as a mom, or anyone out there, that life is full of great moments when we are looking for them. So today, look for a moment to cherish. A hug with your child or a friend. Holding hands with your spouse. That call to your mom. Or simply one more diaper change with those loving, trusting eyes looking up at you. Life is fleeting. I love the quote “Life is not about how many breaths you take, but about the moments that take your breath away.” So, be blessed my friends and cherish the moments.

Landslide

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This week’s feature for Poetry Tuesday is Landslide by Stevie Nicks. I thought I would post the whole song and video to go with yesterdays post. As always, be blessed my friends.


I took my love and took it down
I climbed a mountain and I turned around
And I saw my reflection in the snow-covered hills
Till the landslide brought me down

Oh, mirror in the sky, what is love?
Can the child within my heart rise above?
Can I sail through the changing ocean tides?
Can I handle the seasons of my life?

Well, I’ve been afraid of changing
‘Cause I’ve built my life around you
But time makes you bolder
Even children get older
And I’m getting older too

Well, I’ve been afraid of changing
‘Cause I’ve built my life around you
But time makes you bolder
Even children get older
And I’m getting older too
Oh, I’m getting older too

I take my love, take it down
I climb a mountain and turn around
And if you see my reflection in the snow-covered hills
Will the landslide bring you down
And if you see my reflection in the snow-covered hills
Will the landslide bring you down, oh, oh
The landslide bring you down

 

Seasons

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I have always loved the change in seasons. Fall is my favorite season, but in general I love
them all. I love that when I am just about fed up with one season, it is time for a change.
Everything shifts and feels like a brand new chance. I also love how the changing seasons
marks out the change in time, from one phase and then on to the next.

Now when it comes to my life, I am not often as enthusiastic about change. Change can be
hard. We don’t know what to expect. Change can even be scary and require a step of faith.
I am in a season like that now. I’m getting older, and my kids are getting older and it makes me think a lot about what the future holds. It makes me feel sad and happy all at the same time.

I have always love Landslide by Stevie Nicks. I first heard it as a young girl. It was actually
written the year I was born. I have always found the song sad even when I was still just a child myself, but now…. oh boy. It is actually very interesting to me that this song was written the year I was born. It has been there during all the seasons of my life. When I was a teenager looking toward the future. When I was growing up in my twenties, and now in this season of my life. The lyrics really hit home for me. “Can the child in my heart rise above? Can I sail through the changing ocean tides? Can I handle the seasons of my life? I don’t know.” “I’ve been afraid of changing, cause I built my life around you. But time makes you bolder, even children get older and I’m getting older too.”

Many times I resist change. I think most of us do. But, even though I don’t always like change, I do like new things and new adventures. I also don’t always like being out of my comfort zone, but I do like becoming a better, more rounded person. I think it is interesting how very often we can love a result, or destination, but not always like the price to get there. Interesting, how that works. But as sad as the time passing can be, and the end of a season, it would be just as sad, if not sadder to never change and get stuck in a season. So, can I handle the seasons of my life? Well, just like the lyrics say, I don’t know. But I do know that as much as some things change, some stay the same. I find comfort in that and that my Savior, Jesus Christ, is the same yesterday, today and forever. I think I can face the future, and come what may, He is always there, and soon enough, good or bad, this season will pass and another will lay in front of me.

Blessings my friends.